The Club's Ethos / About Myself

'If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.' - Dalai Lama

This is a free website. I do not ask for money from you to view any part of it, because I deliberately do not run this club or website in the same way as other adult venues.

I am an individual and have never been one for teams or felt the need to be part of something fashionable that other people are doing. I believe in free will, and assume that you don't want to be tied to something either. Therefore you do not need to send money to become a member of the club or pay a monthly, quarterly or annual fee, nor do you need to become a 'VIP' to get more out of this website or pay extra to see previous party photographs or have a membership card to gain admittance. You do not have to 'Login' here, whereby I have your email address without you being sure of me first, nor do you need to create a Username or Password and I don't want your credit card number either.
It is a club only in the loosest possible sense and there is no obligation to attend each party nor feel you have lost your money by not coming along if you cannot make it - as with other annual memberships. It is purely a meeting place for
single gentlemen and fans of gangbangs who want somewhere fun to go to on a Saturday night and socialise. This is the sort of club I always wanted to find, but could not, so I have built it along those lines. This is a private house and you are all individuals, not customers or classed as 'punters' by staff. I have made good friends from running these and some now help me behind the scenes to make them run smoothly for us.

It was not my intention to run a club like this, and I didn't set out to do so at all. I was given someone's profile page in Adultwork (those who want to read the origins of it all in 'Web Log 1') and then this webspace from someone kind enough to donate it to me, after they'd tired of it (I then changed the name and
registered the Domain) and I did my best to try and make it all work at my friend's place in the country, to help him out. But how often in life do you set out to achieve something new, you sweat blood, spend lots of money (on a new invention/writing a book/a new business) only to find that it ends in nothing but disappointment, (or debt!) yet something else which you weren't too fussed about, becomes a roaring success!

So, almost by accident, (and now by popular demand) these events continue and have become an extension of my social life.
I am a single gent and I run this amateur club in my spare time for the friendship and laughs each one brings, for the challenge of doing so, and for the girl's pleasure, as it is her party too. Each party is put together according to her wishes and desires, and what she says she prefers is respected, and she is always there of her own volition rather than coercion. They are well organised, civilised but fun, and not rowdy 'stag nights' and the early parties were run on an almost altruistic basis for fans, as they were quite a labour of love. The girls always come first and I won't tolerate any abuse towards them. There is someone on the door, though there has never been any problem due to how I structure admittance. The emphasis is on a great place to meet up on a Saturday night for friendship, fun sex and a good time. I have set this up as a different sort of Gentlemen's Club, where you can come and actually get sex without paying a fortune; but also a place to meet friends and talk, discuss football, motor racing, politics etc.. At some future point in time, I would like to include such things as a pool/snooker table, dartboard, slot car circuit if people want this and bring their own cars and maybe Mah-Jong too as I play, though minus money as predictably I don't hold with gambling.



I would describe myself as a libertarian,
egalitarian and humanist and old fashioned English gentleman - though a proud Canadian by birth, and two years in 1970's California/San Francisco as a boy, gave me other insights and a privileged and broad social canvas! I have always done my own thing, don't like mediocre or average and don't tend to join things. I usually leave if told I must join in, though I'm not an anarchist because I'm always seeking balance, but I'm not a rebel because I'm very easy going. But I don't even join in at my own party because someone has to make sure it actually happens as intended. I am the only club like this in the UK, so fittingly as an artist and now pushing the boundaries of what is accepted as 'the norm', I guess that makes me avant-garde too and probably an eccentric for good measure! I'm not religious (mostly because its a form of mind control and caused more human misery, suffering and wars than anything else which it should prevent, especially when the Jews, Christians and Muslims all share the Old Testament!) but not atheist as you can't prove there is no God. I believe we ought to be here to help one other during our short lives, than relying upon something we cannot prove after death - though there is so much anecdotal evidence, I am fascinated by spirits/ghosts and the Paranormal. I believe we have different lives and can come back, but it is still important to make the most of each one and to help others do the same in a fairer society. I am probably Agnostic, which basically means, 'I do not know' (regarding a God), and is not the same as 'I have no idea' or sitting on the fence, and keeps my mind open and receptive to other people's ideas and opinions though mine are usually wildly different from others; for example, I do not see recreational sex as a sin, just something to enjoy. This means that all are welcome, and there's no discrimination either on grounds of race, belief or social background. Our little lives are but the blink of an eye in geological time, sandwiched between two eternites, so the endless grief that humans cause each other within this tiny time frame of existance, saddens me.

I've been a rock drummer and needed something new to replace that adrenaline rush, so I've always gone against the grain and been independent and alternative, but despite the name o
f the club, there's nothing sleazy about it or me - I'm teetotal and the people who attend are well mannered and polite and there's no drugs. The girls I have along are a cut above the rest as I'm ultra choosy about who I invite because they have to meet many criteria and be reliable. It will make for fewer parties, but I believe in quality not quantity. They also aren't always going to be escorts as some will be amateur girls and the price of the event will be reduced to reflect this, or half the money taken, would be given to the charity of her choice. A moral sex club run by a non-drinking rock drummer, seems a complete contradiction in terms, but that's why this is not your average club. Society has double standards and thinks that sex outside of marriage is inherently wicked, and by association, I must be an instrument of the devil (especially as a fan of heavy metal! ; ), but with a bit of luck the club will survive and prosper over time.

If you decide to join in, you will find me to be honest, trustworthy and genuine when you email, and that the crowd who attend are friendly also.
I too have been ripped off, let down, stood up and messed about when reaching out to people Online who turned out to be timewasters, liars and fakes. So I know what it is like to be on the receiving end of that, and decided to put a stop to it for those that wanted to join me on this new venture into the alternative.


It only works if you support me though, and if you still think I'm a scam after emailing me too, heaven help your cynicism!

http://www.humanism.org.uk/humanism


This track is by virtuoso guitarist Steve Vai from 1990 and picked here for its profound and moving video content, coupled with the purity, peace and silence that falling snow brings, verses all the angst we bring each other. He employed many unusal recording techniques, one of which for this album, was fasting for 10 days; recording this on his 4th day without food. A brilliant musician and transcriber, he caught the ear of Frank Zappa, then was in Alcatrazz, before going on to join Dave Lee Roth when DLR jumped the Van Halen ship. After that he joined Whitesnake (it is David Coverdale's voice you hear at the end of this track) and then finally went solo, recording this on his first solo album. It has since been voted #29 in a readers' poll of the 100 greatest guitar solos of all time in Guitar World magazine. His teacher in the 1970's was none other than Joe Satriani, himself now a global superstar too.

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Rush - 'Freewill' - 1980. The second track on progressive rock band Rush's 1980 album Permanent Waves. Written by Geddy Lee and Alex Lifeson with lyrics by Neil Peart. The song's lyrics deal with the subject of free will, emphasizing that free will is not a gift but rather a choice; explaining that Man can attempt to evade the fact that he must choose, but that evasion is itself a choice. And just check out Geddy's full vocal range, after the instrumental ends!