Is This Club Legal?

This club is a men's social club. In fact, it would be far easier to have no party girl along for each evening, and to run a gentlemen's club along the lines of a dart board, snooker table, chess/Mah-Jong games, table tennis, a slot car circuit where you each bring your own car and barbecues in the summer, but men are notoriously coy about self help groups, so this is my answer to a massive problem of loneliness in society. Men like women. It is something most men are programmed to take an interest in, for the survival of our species. We are however becoming increasingly victimised for what used to be a normal healthy response to the opposite sex. But if I felt anything I did was not legal or if someone says this is not legal, I would close the club.

What follows below, is an extension of the 'Club Ethos' tab. 


The primary purpose of the club is to spread peace, love, happiness and tolerance. I am however, tainted by association as to what people perceive an all men's club to be. There are the the sort, found sometimes in city high streets, where attractive women parade about engaging in vacuous faux conversation before asking if you would like the euphemistic 'dance' in a side booth, then a brief rubbing up and down on your clothed crotch, before you leave with a lighter wallet and a feeling like you're the one who has been used. Or, other male only clubs where women are groped against their wishes and disrespected openly, or they are shut out and not allowed in at all. Mine is neither. Women are welcomed, and those that attend have been interviewed first, so that I know that it is they who wish the experience and not someone else behind them. I find now that I prefer to invite people that I know well, have met prior to any date being fixed and full discussions take place first and who are friends.
No one is exploited in any way.

For me, it is a social club, not a sex club. I will also hold parties where there is no party girl present. They are just informal gatherings in someone's private residence, a few times per year for friends, as with any other party. Two of which are a Christmas party and a Halloween party, which everyone has in their own homes.

The club does not endorse anything illegal in any sphere. There is a strict no drugs policy, no smoking and not even alcohol, but soft drinks or even health drinks (carrot juice, beetroot juice, wheat grass/barley grass) and no gambling of any sort.

Each girl is ALWAYS 18 or over. I am not a misogynist and support equality for women. I dislike much of the way women are treated and disrespected in porn films, and the vast majority of studios seem to have no idea how to make an erotic gangbang film, with zero imagination, often with it bordering on gang rape which I find vile and unnacceptable.

She is there by her own free will and her signature appears on a typed consent form prior to a party. A picture of her holding the Daily Telegraph newspaper and a signature is taken at the end of every party also, showing the date and that she has come to no harm.

Yes you do have to pay, and in advance. No money is taken on the day of the party which then makes it a private members club and there is just a single girl each time. She could, for argument's sake, be my girlfriend and you come as my invited friends. This is not a whore house with many girls, it is my house and I put on a few social events per year. You pay for the 3 weeks it takes to organise the event, the running costs and all the emails it takes to arrange this. It is an amateur club but run in a professional manner to protect you, me and her from disease and undesirables.

Each evening is a challenge to put on, not a money making enterprise and previously I have been out of pocket by holding them.

There are many members, from all walks of life and all backgrounds, races and religions. I do not need to know people's occupations and I do not ask; all are welcome. You deserve a private life and how you like to relax as an adult is entirely up to you. It is also why emails are sent as blind copies, to protect your personal data so that privacy is maintained.

Loneliness - This club is for girls wanting to live out a common female fantasy, and for single men. By definition, on their own. So, being a moral club, it is also my attempt to address the very serious aspect of loneliness within our society. It does not just affect the elderly. There is now a 'Minister for Loneliness'. To quote from the Guardian, 'More than 9 million adults in the UK are either always or often lonely'. '35 per cent of men feel lonely at least once a week'. The damage is assessed at being equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day, as dangerous as obesity and increases the likelihood of an early death by 26 per cent and it is immunosuppressant. Married men are healthier than single men, though it can be argued that women will ONLY marry a healthy male. Single men are also at much greater risk of suicide than women who manage to socialise more easily, especially once they are mums and can socialise with other new mothers. You don't find new dads in a group discussing baby development.

I know that people have gone away from my evenings and continued friendships made there, in their normal daily life, which is gratifying. It is a chance to network with other similar people, a day off for your liver if you drink, a natural high and sometimes there will be parties just because it is a gentlemen's club, without any girl present. It is also something I run to keep my own sanity and to stop my own loneliness which has at times been extreme due to long term illnes and a reason for persisting with the club. My best buddy now, is someone who came to the parties who would stand outside in the cold with his cigarette, so I put him on the door and we got chatting. He now does not smoke, has lost weight, stopped the medication, changed his job to something he wants to do, and we talk on the phone regularly and is much happier now. Perhaps this club ought to be rolled out across the country and be on the NHS?! But the opportunity to come to a party, for some of the men, is perhaps the only invitation or social event they get all year, and they save up to attend. Some men are divorced, some widowed, some have had wives pass away due to cancer and are isolated and unhappy, so I hope this club helps in some small way to put smiles back onto people's faces.

Statistics for male mental health, make sobering reading: 'Poor mental health affects more people in the UK than heart disease or cancer. An estimated 40 per-cent of men won't or can't talk to anyone about their problems. 73 per-cent of adults who 'go missing' are men; 87 per-cent of rough sleepers are men; men commit 86 per-cent of violent crime are twice as likely to be victims of violent crime. Men account for three quarters of suicides.'

I detest the phrase, 'Man up'. What we're actually witnessing in society today, and ironically driven in part by women who have an idealised vision of their perfect man from films and magazines, is closer to the American military phrase once your comrade is shot or wounded, 'Man down'. And who helps then? Not women. Not other men who generally are solitary wolves and not programmed to help other men. Not the State. So it IS down to us.

I also have a laborious 6 stage filter system to ensure no undesirables, club rules and club hygeine rules also. It is far more work for me, but I prefer the slow steady approach to achieve a high standard.

There is no noise to annoy neighbours and I work hard to ensure they are not inconvenienced in any way at all. I would feel I had failed, if anyone were to complain. In the past I have received only glowing praise for what I was trying to accomplish.

Comments or criticisms are welcomed by email, if someone feels this club does not deserve to exist in a free society. However, should this club cease to exist, a huge disservice will have been done to the UK as this is the only one, and likely to remain so. People email me from the USA and Europe even!

Samaritans in the UK - Contact 116 123.